I: Wisdom on Work:
#You learn best through organizing, but you ultimately, you'll have to bruit memorized it.
When in doubt, organized 30% and memorized 70%.
#If we don't have a goal, then we won't have a plan. If we don't have a plan, we get lost.
-Planning allows you to maximized your time
-Planning schedule should be easy to make and simple to follow.
#Do not expect yourself to wake up early, if you go to bed late.
#Get your life together begins by getting yourself together." (aka: Take care of yourself first)
#If this is a test, what would you do?
II: Wisdom of self:
#When I am given too many tasks, I get overwhelm without definite plan, leading to anxiety.
-> Solution: Write task down into Accomplisment list, focus on one task at a time.
#When I get thirsty/clustered, and I pushed on, it is operating under poor management.
->Solution: I should get a drink of water.
#Bed by 11PM. No good things happen after 11 PM.
III: Wisdom on love:
#Happiness comes from within, so do not seek it without. But do walk into better days."
-“Beautiful days do not come to you. You must walk towards them.” ― Rumi.
#I believed the reason why we should let go of the past is that the present has so much more to offer.
-“Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present.” – Albert Camus
-Excerpt from "Wisdom of Life #1 - Holding on and Letting Go" - Could it be that we tend to look so longingly toward the past because we have nothing to look forward to? Then maybe then the correct choice is to give everything to the present so that way we can generate a future we can hoped for and far more engaging. I believed the reason why we should let go of the past is that the present has so much more to offer.
#Those who do not have the courage to let go of the past, does not have to privilege to reap the benefit that comes with future.
-Getting over someone entitles 2 component: Letting go and Moving on. More on this later
-Her loss create space for something to be gained.
#You cannot in love out of sympathy.
-Kind people get rejected too. And its ok to reject kind people.
#We finds inspiration from our partner.
-sometime we like somebody bc we admire certain things in them, and they inspire us in certain ways, in which we subconsciously want to see in ourselves.
#Its not how old you are, its how young you look.
-"Looks give your personality a chance"
#Self improvement/investment is a work of a lifetime. It does not even when you are in a relationship."
-The best thing we can do for each other is be the best version of ourself
-When you lose yourself in others or in relationship, you often end up heart broken. Keep a little distance for yourself and improve and work on yourself. If you thrive, so will your partner.
#When one partner is not willing to walk away at the negotiating table, is when the relationship is at lost"
- Todd said it
"A relationship either grow or deteriorates. It does not stay
III: Wisdom on Life:
#Running and Reflecting - "Remember that this is not something you just do once or twice. Interrupting our destructive habits and awakening our heart is the world of a lifetime."
#The country that closes its door, is always at a lost.
-This applies to a person's life as well. After looking at friends and individuals who close themselves to the world, I tend to noticed they are always at a disadvantage. Their world is so much smaller and it close them up from opportunities and people. I feel there is so much to people and the world. As long as we are careful but also at certain point being braved, I think as much we open to the world, we will received back in return.
-A closed door life keeps our world small. As one close their doors to the world, they will always be at a disadvantage.
IV: Wisdom on Resilence:
Resilience: 3 Key to Resilience
— We seem to live in an age where we're entitled to a perfect life where shiny happy photos on Instagram are the norm when actually as you all demonstrated at the start of my talk, the very opposite is true.
- **Suffering is the part of the every human existence. Knowing this stop you feeling discriminated when the tough times come. Resilience comes from focusing on the things we can change, and somehow accepting the things we cannot.
- Resilience people are really good at choosing carefully where they select their attention. Habit of realistically appraising situation and managing focusing on things they can change. As human, we are very good at sticking on negative emotions, like velcro. Resilience comes from knowing things are not finite, happiness and sadness are finite in a tangiable duration of time. Hard time are just time that are hard. Acknowledging the good things during tough time has shown by science to be a powerful strategy.
- —“Don't lose what you have to what you have lost." In psychology, we call this benefit-finding. Make an intentional, deliberate, ongoing effort to tune into what's good in your world.
- **Number three: Resilient people ask themselves "Is what I'm doing helping or harming me?" This is a question that's used a lot in good therapy and boy is it powerful. — This question can be applied to so many different contexts. Is the way you're thinking and acting, helping or harming you in your bid to get that promotion, to pass that exam, to recover from a heart attack, so many different ways.
- ex: “Is this helping you or is it harming you? Put away the photos, go to bed for the night, be kind to yourself."
- —Asking yourself whether what you're doing, the way you're thinking, the way you're acting is helping or harming you puts you back in the driver's seat. It gives you some control over your decision making.
